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One Way or Another This Darkness Got to Give – “New Speedway Boogie” Lyrics: Robert Hunter

March 7, 2016 – The potential darkness of elder years comes on softly and slowly, without much fanfare. The insidious heaviness which seems to overtake one’s entire being begins almost imperceptibly. Heavy footsteps on the stairs; heavy breathing while doing … Continue reading

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Furthur – Paradise Waits – On the Importance of Thoughts

January 27, 2014 – A few days ago, we returned from Furthur’s farewell performances in Mexico’s Riviera Maya. Whether these four nights of music were the final performances of Furthur, or simply the band’s final performances before their announced 2014 … Continue reading

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Once in a While You Get Shown the Light …

November 20, 2013 – Have you ever considered mistakes that you’ve made? Most people I’ve spoken with admit to having made “a mistake or two” in their lives. But how do they determine that they made a mistake? What criteria … Continue reading

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Red Light, Green Light, 1, 2, 3

August 29, 2013 – Recently I was reminded of the childhood game we used to play in the school yard during recess: Red Light, Green Light, 1, 2, 3 (“RLGL”). Remember the game? The person who’s IT turns away from … Continue reading

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Doggie Heaven

August 12, 2013 – Jackie and I decided to get away for a few days with our pack of three dogs. But where to go? Most campgrounds that allow dogs limit the number to, at most, 2 dogs. Our pack … Continue reading

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Maintaining Drive and Engagement Even on Low Energy Days

June 3, 2013 – While driving to a client meeting last week, I was struck with my low energy level that day.  Not only that day – it seemed to me that I was in a low energy period for … Continue reading

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Nothing Left To Do But Smile, Smile, Smile

February 28, 2013 – The commonsensical notion that smiling can affect our moods and make us, and others, feel happier, has gotten a lot of press lately. Books on achieving happiness, research on effects of different types of smiles all … Continue reading

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“I Can’t Take This Anymore … Or Can I?”

December 26, 2012 – Our power came back on at 1:28AM late Saturday night/Sunday morning, November 4th: We were in the cold and dark for over 127 hours since Sandy took out the power in our area. Super Storm Sandy … Continue reading

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The Way of Self-Forgiveness

October 19, 2012 – The Jewish High Holy Days ended recently culminating with Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. It therefore occurs to me that a discussion of the concept of forgiveness – whether asking forgiveness of others or self-forgiveness … Continue reading

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Meetings – The Building Blocks of Relationships

July 26, 2012 – Continuing last month’s article on meetings, let’s consider how meetings are the building blocks of relationships. And since today would have been my dad’s 87th birthday, I’m gratified to share another of dad’s lessons in the … Continue reading

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Furthering Creativity – A Tale of Two Keys (Part 3)

May 30, 2012 – In the first two parts of this topic, we discussed the two keys to furthering creativity: 1. Broadening your perspective helps you identify more dots to connect; and 2. Thinking outside the box helps you discover … Continue reading

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Furthering Creativity – A Tale of Two Keys (Part 2)

May 10, 2012 – In Part 1 of this article, we quoted Steve Jobs’ definition of creativity (“simply connecting things”) and began a discussion of the two keys which further your ability to open the doors of creativity. The first … Continue reading

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Furthering Creativity – A Tale of Two Keys (Part 1)

April 25, 2012 – It was the best of solutions. It was the worst of solutions. If only I were more creative, I would have crafted the perfect solution. Pardon my paraphrasing Dickens, but this sentiment, although perhaps not universally experienced, … Continue reading

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The Aimless Pursuit of Nothingness Or The Purposeful Creation of Somethingness

March 5, 2012 – Recently, while reading a review of Prof. Lawrence Krauss’ latest book, A Universe From Nothing, I was struck with the apparent similarities between the Universe and human experience. Krauss challenges the common assumption that nothingness is … Continue reading

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Guest Blogger: Karen McMahon – Foster Healthy Communication

February 28, 2012 – I am pleased to announce that Res Ipsa Moments will host guest bloggers from time to time. Our first guest blogger is Karen McMahon, a colleague and fellow iPEC coach, with a blog entitled “Foster Healthy … Continue reading

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The Power of Venting

February 9, 2012 – While reading an article today on breaking impasses in mediation, the question was raised whether or not venting helps people get past their emotions in order to reach an agreement. Although the author of the article … Continue reading

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Groundhog Day

February 2, 2012 – Today is Groundhog Day and Punxsutawney Phil told us to expect another six weeks of winter. Would that knowing the future could be so easy and effortless. Alas, we mortal humans don’t have it so easy. … Continue reading

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Stress Revisited

January 25, 2012 – One all too common challenge faced by everyone is stress. Stress is an integral part of life. Stress motivates us to accomplish our goals. As such, stress is desirable. Left unchecked, however, stress has the power … Continue reading

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Speak the Same Language

January 1, 2012 – Today is New Year’s Day, a time to contemplate resolutions for the coming year. Topping many lists are traveling to foreign countries and learning a new language. And what’s the biggest challenge in traveling to a foreign … Continue reading

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Creatures of Habit

December 6, 2011 – We are all creatures of habit, which is to say, we are all created by, and the products of, our habits. Habits, by and large, are good things. They provide the necessary shortcuts which enable us … Continue reading

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Breathe and Relax

October 25, 2011 – Breathe. Relax. Two key words to live your life by. The two go hand in hand. In order to truly relax, you need to breathe naturally and calmly. And to breathe naturally and calmly you need to … Continue reading

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Values Based Negotiations

September 23, 2011 – While discussing in last month’s newsletter how best to achieve the essential buy-in for engagement from the perspective of setting goals, we mentioned different approaches towards negotiation. Let’s begin this month with clarifying what is meant … Continue reading

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Sensationalism is Good for News – But not Life

September 12, 2011 – Looking at any newspaper headline, or listening to any news station, in the northeastern United States over the last month and you will have seen sensationalist newscasting/journalism at its finest. Disasters, real and anticipated, from earthquakes, … Continue reading

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Essential Buy-In for Success and Full Engagement

August 30, 2011 – Last newsletter we discussed the all important question of WIIFM (What’s in it for me?) and how answering that question allows people to develop the essential “buy-in” for the job at hand which then creates a … Continue reading

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In Gratitude to Blaze

August 16, 2011 – Yesterday, August 15th, was the 42nd anniversary of Woodstock.  Although I was a few years too young to attend, the Woodstock aura impacted me such that I felt as though I was there. Yesterday was also … Continue reading

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Imagine the Possibilities

August 8, 2011 – So much has happened – so many changes – in my life this summer. All of them good things by any standard. In chronological order: we moved; my oldest son got engaged; and Jackie and I … Continue reading

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On the Importance of Being Engaged

May 27, 2011 – In my last blog posting I recalled a recent meeting where I mentioned some of the research and work I’m doing on engagement and the response from the other side of the table was a smile … Continue reading

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Prime Conditions for Being Engaged

May 23, 2011 – While at a meeting the other day, I mentioned some of the research and work I’m doing on engagement and the response from the other side of the table was a smile and the words “that’s a … Continue reading

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The Funnel – Parts 1 and 2

PART 1 April 13, 2011 – Marketers and sales trainers often rely on the metaphor of the funnel as a visualization of the business growth process. We create a funnel with a wide opening on one side to pour in … Continue reading

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Dream On

March 24, 2011 – We often talk about setting goals and devising action plans to achieve those goals. Such is the hallmark of first determining strategic plans and then tactical moves to achieve that strategy. We do this all the … Continue reading

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Long Live the Story

March 1, 2011 – We went to see Cesar Millan, the Dog Whisperer, last week at the Bergen PAC. The Dog Whisperer live onstage? Yes, you read correctly. Cesar is taking his dog rehabilitating, human training message on the road. … Continue reading

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In Memory of Doug Goldstein

February 18, 2011 –  Thursday morning I awoke to the sad news I had anticipated and dreaded: Doug Goldstein, a friend I’ve known since college, passed away the night before. Although not unexpected – Linda told me on Tuesday evening … Continue reading

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New Direction – Mediation

December 8, 2010 – As you might have noticed, there were no issues of Res Ipsa News in October and November and no blog postings since early October. This was not an oversight – it was an intentional break to … Continue reading

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To Label or Not to Label

October 10, 2010 – To label or not to label, that is the question.  Have you ever given serious consideration to the use of labels in your life?  Think about how often and easily we resort to labeling ourselves and … Continue reading

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Reflection, Introspection, Motivation.

September 13, 2010 – The unofficial end of summer (Labor Day) has come and gone.  The new school year has begun, and we are in the middle of the Jewish New Year season – a time traditionally devoted to reflection … Continue reading

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That’s Easier Said Than Done

September 2010 – This month, let’s explore the phenomenon of excuses and rationalizations relied on to avoid making changes in our lives, changes designed to help us achieve our goals. Such excuses can be responses to any of the four … Continue reading

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Guide Your Career – Relish the Moment

August 2010 – In previous newsletters we discussed the four inner blocks and considered harnessing stress, transformational change and self-mastery. This month we’ll examine the fine line between living in the moment (as opposed to living for the moment) and … Continue reading

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‘Tis Easier Said Than Done

July 26, 2010 – Today is my father’s birthday.  Dad would have been 85.  At first blush, my dad had a charmed, easy life.  Dad graduated Harvard Law School, was an accomplished attorney, built a successful real estate business, was … Continue reading

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Gremlins

July 2010 – This month, we’ll resume our discussion of the Big 4 inner blocks. Previously, we looked at Limiting Beliefs (beliefs that you accept about life, about yourself, about your world, or about the people in it, and which … Continue reading

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Living In The Moment

June 27, 2010 –  Last night we went to see, hear and experience the Furthur concert in Coney Island.  Furthur, for those who don’t know, is the current incarnation of the Grateful Dead.  Let me begin by saying that the … Continue reading

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Harnessing Stress — Part 2

May 21, 2010 – Yes, we all experience stress from time to time. Yes, experiencing stress is natural. And yes, we all know the negative repercussions of rampant, uncontrolled stress. We feel on edge physically, are less patient with others, … Continue reading

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Harnessing Stress, Part 1

May 7, 2010 – Stress caught up with me this week. Blindsided me, as a matter of fact. Going about my regular routine of work, writing, teaching, working out and, of course, family, I couldn’t figure out why I was … Continue reading

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Resilience in the Face of Negativity

April 14, 2010 – I’ve spent a great deal of time over the last half year researching positive psychology and putting its teachings into practice. The fit between positive psychology and my coaching background is nearly seamless. And yesterday I … Continue reading

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Interpretations

April 2010 – The third of the Big 4 energy blocks which hold us back and prevent us from achieving our dreams and goals are: Interpretations. When we interpret something, we create and accept an opinion about an event, situation, … Continue reading

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Transformational Change – Redux

March 2010 – This month, let’s examine the twin concepts of change and growth and apply them to an overriding fear expressed by many people today: Namely the fear of professional or career transition with its implicit connotation as a … Continue reading

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Assumptions

February 2010 – Closely related to limiting beliefs, which we discussed a couple of months ago, is the second of the “Big 4” energy blocks which prevent us from making conscious choices and reaching our potential: Assumptions. An assumption is … Continue reading

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The Path to Happiness…

January 6, 2010 – … is paved by discovering paths to optimal performance. When we mentioned previously the notion of utilizing our signature strengths to make our dreams realities, we were in fact alluding to discovering paths to continued success … Continue reading

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Limiting Beliefs

December 6, 2009 – In our last issue, we discussed Self-Mastery and how we can master our lives once we begin living our lives authentically through utilizing and sharing our signature strengths. Learning to make conscious choices, choices that are … Continue reading

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Self-Mastery

November 6, 2009 – Previously, I described the power each of us has to choose to live our lives fully and passionately. Exercising this power of choice requires a shift in perspective and retraining in the way we view the … Continue reading

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