Resilience in the Face of Negativity

April 14, 2010 – I’ve spent a great deal of time over the last half year researching positive psychology and putting its teachings into practice. The fit between positive psychology and my coaching background is nearly seamless. And yesterday I fully felt the downward pull of negativity as I watched my youngest son go through the security checkpoint at the airport on his way to a four month trip abroad. You see, for the first time in a long while, I am an empty-nester. Feeling the sadness of saying goodbye to my son, anticipating the empty feeling I would experience at home that evening, I felt negativity coloring every aspect of the day. The downward spiral became so evident to me, and so powerful – just as predicted in the research I’ve been reading.

What should I have done? Should I have given in to the downward pull? Should I have resisted it forcefully? Neither seemed a particularly good option. Instead, I followed the sage advice proffered by positive psychology and that which I give my own clients: Counter the negative with plenty of positive. And so I surrounded myself with positive experiences yesterday afternoon: Lunch with my love; time with the dogs; and preparing the fixings for comfort food dinner. Am I still saddened by my son’s departure? Absolutely.  Are those negative feelings pulling me down and dampening my entire mood? Not any longer.

Resilience in the face of negativity. That is the key.

Consider the possibilities.

Adam J. Krim                                                                                                www.driveconsulting.net

 

About Adam J. Krim

Adam works as a Certified Professional Coach, delivering soft skills training seminars on a variety of topics, including Time Management, Harnessing Stress, Decision Making, Problem Solving and more.
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2 Responses to Resilience in the Face of Negativity

  1. Denis Webb says:

    Your coaching is obviously having a positive effect on me. Having read your words of what you did to add more positivity in your life in the face of a negative situation, I found myself doing many of the same things. Confronted with a challenge, which I could easily have made worse by wallowing in self-pity, I instead defaulted to positivity. I embraced my life and surrounded myself with the peals of childhood laughter, prepared myself a wonderfully indulgent (yet healthy) dinner, and made plans for the future with people I love. I awoke today with even more hope and happiness. Thanks for your words of encouragement and direction.

    • Adam Krim says:

      That’s great to hear Denis. We all have negative experiences from time to time. Engaging in activities or thoughts which we find positive helps break the downward spiral. And you found the 3:1 ratio of positive to negative which propelled you forward. Keep up the good work.

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